Big Bad on Pain

I asked if anyone had questions for my Dom and several people sent questions. Here is his first response. Written by him and not by me. Maybe the blog bug will bite him too.

Dear Big Bad...is it the pain that is a turn on...or her willingness to "take it"for You that gets things heated for You?

Yes, all of the above and more. Sin and I have talked a lot about what the Sadist part of Me gets from giving her pain. First, just pain alone doesn't excite Me at all. For example, if she slammed her finger in the door, whether I was present or not, it would not provide Me any of the high that I get when "I" give her pain. So it is much more than just the pain, it is about Me giving it and her taking it for Me. Now that's power!

I think you should understand; however, that when I give sin pain, it is almost always done in a sexual way, usually nipple pain because I find that the most effective way to deliver the levels of pain I choose to give her in our mostly online D/s relationship. So, usually, I have stripped her first, exposed her pretty breasts, often making her play with them, pull them, twist them, pinch them - all preparing herself, her nipples, making them more sensitive. She has such conflicted emotions about this part as it makes her sexual, even craving if I do it long enough BUT she is also acutely aware all the time that she is making her nipples more sensitive, even sore. She is aware all the time that what will follow is that I am going to hurt them more and the pain will be even greater due to the preparation I make her do with her own fingers used as Mine.

There is yet another piece of this, beyond power, sex and sadism, that I get high from as well. That part is, despite all I've said above, making her want it, need it, even crave the pain when she doesn't get it for awhile. In other words, making this strong woman a masochist for not only pain, but My pain. Making her a pain addict, a pain slut. That is a mentally challenging hot piece of this for Me too. By the way, when I met sin, many years ago, she hated pain. How do you feel about pain today, My lil pain slut? Yes, it is a huge turn on for Me when I take it away from her for awhile and she eventually humiliates herself enough to come on her knees and beg for it. You see, she needs it now and I have it. This is hard for her to do - she is proud and it degrades her to have to beg for what I have and she needs. That part can actually be hot for both of Us.

In her blog, sin has addressed this subject at length from the sub's viewpoint. I hope this gives you a little window into the mind of her Sadist. By the way, I love her for many reasons, and certainly one of them is taking the pain I dish up for her and often coming back for more.

So many legs and arms to this pain aspect of Our D/s relationship and we still learn more about it and each other every time we play with it. I could go on for hours about this one but out of time now.

So all of this turns Me on when giving pain to sin and I should mention that she soaks herself between her thighs as all this is happening. Power? Of course.