Long Distance

Yesterday I was catching up on my reading and I read this post by Discerning Dom saying that he and his lover, his submissive, had decided to release each other.

They love each other, adore each other and have had a long distance relationship with several passionate meetings. But this post says they have decided they cannot continue because they live too far away and see each other too infrequently. And in the interim they feel they aren't giving (and presumably getting) what they need.

I guess this just makes me sad.

I didn't leave a long comment saying "No you have it wrong. You can make this work." Because clearly they didn't feel they could.

So I just went away feeling bad for them.

I don't feel their decision makes my relationship less viable. I've always known that mine is not the norm, not the idea, not the Holy Grail of relationships. But somehow it works most days.

Sometimes I wish it was different. Lots of the time I don't think about it, it just IS. And sometimes it's pretty freakin amazing and I wouldn't trade it.

Maybe some of what makes it work is perspective. Seeing the glass half full instead of half empty? Enjoying what I have instead of focusing on what I don't.

I doubt my perspective or my platitudes would have helped them in their situation. But it's a relationship that does fulfil us though perhaps the logic to that escapes the rest of the world. And after all, it's really only the two of us (well okay, sometimes more) in our relationship.