I have these friends who I love. Both halves of the couple are my best friends and they just happened to fall in love and get married.
And for a while it looked like they were living happily ever after.
And then things started to go wrong for them.
Lots of outside pressures.
And lately when I see them it's horrible. They are horrible to each other.
She's the worst. She's contemptuous and mean.
He is sarcastic and dismissive. But from what I can see, which I get isn't everything, she usually starts it.
I'm sad for them.
It's not gonna be happily ever after and I'm sad for both of them.
I wish I could fix things. I've tried. A little. Gently. To tell them to play nice and be respectful. Like either of them would with anyone else.
But they seem to be past that.
I hope not. But hoping isn't believing.
Bummer, eh?
Oh i can identify with this, my brother and his wife are going through a very difficult patch and its looking likely that they will separate.
ReplyDeleteIts difficult because although he is my brother i am close to her and think of her as the sister i never had, i try to stay out of it the best i can because i think its beyond intervention.
I dont know what went wrong they have always seemed so happy and have been together for nearly 20 years but as the saying goes...you never know what really goes on behind closed doors!.
Hopefully there is a chance your friends can work it out and if not i hope you can find a way to not be caught up in the middle of it thats the tricky part i imagine being friends of them both.
tori
Hi, Sin,
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aisha
This isn't exactly helpful, perhaps, but I thought I'd mention that I and my husband were in a similar situation (albeit, we were both trying our best to be humane, it just wasn't happening because our wishes were so contradictory, and we hurt each other a lot, intentionally or otherwise).
ReplyDeleteWe got divorced. But we are now better friends than we were before, and civility has taken the place of the bands we once wore on our fingers; we treat each other with respect and affection, and we understand one another better than almost anyone else ever will.
It's not a fairytale ending, but I still think it's a miracle.
I know it is hard to watch, but sometimes ending a relationship gone bad is the best possible thing. Ending frees people to go hunt for what will possibly make them happy. I hope that becomes the truth for your friends. That fairy tale business is really for children -- not everything lasts forever.
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hmm, I do know that not all relationships end in "happily ever after", but I do want it for my friends. And yeah, they might well be happier apart. Sad but true. Thanks for the gentle reminder of this.
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