There's a new blog I found, a friend of a friend, who writes from a Domme's point of view. Her name is Ms. Constance and I like her style.A lot. Go have a look. It's so rare that anyone writes from a Dominant's point of view and she's very well written.
In browsing through her blog, I found a post on doing things with a glad heart. It was and is timely for me.
Not doing this is one of my fatal flaws; I sulk.
I always obey, but not always with a glad heart.
I sulk and do things grudgingly. How fucking annoying is that?
So... I'll try to do better. I'll respond consciously, and try to do better.
Lighter... I think that's what I'm aiming for.
Thanks for the insights Ms. Constance!
-sin
i've heard Ms. Constance talk about doing things with a glad heart and been touched too, Sin. It's a challenge sometimes, but it feels like it's more of the goal I want than being sweet, at least to me.
ReplyDeleteaisha
What nice comments I'm finally getting around to following. I do think the glad heart is the key to good service in that, it's not my goal for you to actually do X for me. I can do X myself, or find someone else who can, whatever it is. It isn't the X itself that matters, it's that you do X because I asked you to. And if you act as though I'm actually *forcing* you to do this thing, then it's as if you're undermining the actual service itself.
ReplyDeleteThe glad heart, on the other hand, makes the smallest act a comment on submission, on the willingness not to so much care WHAT it is you do, but THAT you are able to do it.