He says in a weak voice "There's something I must confess."
"Shhhh" said the wife, "There's nothing to confess. Everything is all right."
"No" the husband replied, "I must die in peace. I had sex with your sister, your best friend, her best friend and your best friend's mom!"
"I know," she whispered, "That's why I poisoned you, now close your eyes"
Dark but funny, right?
I heard an interview yesterday with a discussion about whether fidelity should always mean sexual fidelity, or whether it was more about honesty and faithfulness to some oath or promise or vow.
I think fidelity has both meanings. And isn't that interesting? That it could mean both of those things, separately?
The vow/honesty lady was suggesting that a relationship could and should be renegotiated every so often. Great idea, though I'm not sure it's feasible or easy. And I do think that our society believes that fidelity is about sexual monogamy, don't you?
The monogamy guy announced that 80% of the population believed that sexual fidelity was very important. Um, okay, maybe but... lots of people cheat, right?
The vow lady said that maybe relationships would last longer if they could be renegotiated? If you could say to your partner or 5 or 15 years, "I still love you, and still want to live in this house with you and the kids, but I need some of this in my life too."
The implication there is that needs and desires change over time.
The sexual monogamy guy was hard line about it. No, no renegotiating and no outside interests. Those things would lead inexorably to random other guys in the house, molesting your kids. And to either the swinging culture of the 70s or a muslin version of poly where women had no power. And generally to all kinds of evil.
The vow lady didn't have many good examples of how it could work. Most of her research was based on gay American men in the fairly recent past. Not enough real data there to prove much of anything.
But it's not about proving is it? It's more about food for thought, and wondering whether it's time to try something new.
I leaned more toward the argument of renegotiating. Though... golly... it would be complicated wouldn't it?