tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8300358253579118867.post8829265004519241718..comments2023-06-16T08:04:20.695-04:00Comments on finding my submission: Analysissinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00082648132476803815noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8300358253579118867.post-4505216279658379322016-08-08T19:03:28.737-04:002016-08-08T19:03:28.737-04:00It's been two years since my ex-Dom decided th...It's been two years since my ex-Dom decided that we were done. That he couldn't do any of what we were anymore. No fight. We had just had a scene and had sex in the basement and when we came upstairs into the living room...he said he couldn't do this anymore.<br /><br />We stopped talking for a while. We'd been friends first. But I was spiraling bc a different ex of mine was living three blocks away and I couldn't get the courts to do anything about it, even though I had a protection from abuse order against the asshole.<br /><br />My ex dom was...well he said he wanted to marry me one day. I don't think I've ever said that anywhere before. We fought through hell and back to be together, bc of my other ex being the asshole he was. And then once things started to look up, he just left.<br /><br />I will say I'm with someone now. It's not the same. I haven't learned how to give up that trust again. I hope it'll come back in time. My ex dom and I started talking again in Feb. What a mess that was. I have nightmares sometimes when we have casual text conversations. Nightmares about his flaws, about him caring...and worse things. Things that he never actually did.<br /><br />I don't really have answers. Time, maybe. I've been reading your blog longer than I've had this profile. Since 2011, I think. You and lil are the bloggers I found first, all those years ago.<br /><br />Eventually the wounds will heal. I don't know what they'll look like when they do, but they will heal. And you keep moving forward because they aren't worth anything else. Your pain is worth the stumbles and falls, but they aren't.<br /><br />The best advice I can give you is to never speak to him again. Don't look into his life. It'll only cause you pain. I'm speaking from experience here. If he's not helping you heal and being there for you, get him the fuck out of your life because he's already shown that he's not worth a second more of your time.<br /><br />*hugs*<br /><br />~JASJustAnotherSubhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11210169452171245860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8300358253579118867.post-49641412196588234472016-08-02T16:25:35.804-04:002016-08-02T16:25:35.804-04:00This sucks. I'm sorry you are in so much pain....This sucks. I'm sorry you are in so much pain. <br /> Everything Jade has said! <br />*hugs*<br /><br /><br /><br />Bleue D'âmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12945301989408243513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8300358253579118867.post-83691092907625961622016-08-02T13:27:34.854-04:002016-08-02T13:27:34.854-04:00Your friend loves you. Since your friend is so far...Your friend loves you. Since your friend is so far away that she can't do anything physically for you, like hug you when you cry ply you with alcohol and ice cream or smack him upside his (pecker)head, she does what she can do. ;(|)<br /><br />(my not a robot task was to pick all the images with candy, LOL!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8300358253579118867.post-34020792519700511372016-08-02T11:16:29.628-04:002016-08-02T11:16:29.628-04:00Jade ...what a wonderful response. You do have to...Jade ...what a wonderful response. You do have to allow yourself to grieve, and go though all those stages...and pamper yourself. Time is needed, and you will heal...this is a good place for Hugs...so keep us posted and you will get lots of them...wish it could be over a glass of wine..<br />hugs abbyabbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15842526901481062563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8300358253579118867.post-56808850575098293422016-08-02T10:55:35.288-04:002016-08-02T10:55:35.288-04:00Remember that the Stages of Grief apply to all kin...Remember that the Stages of Grief apply to all kinds of endings, not just a physical death and that the Stages are not linear. You may bounce around between anger, denial, bargaining, acceptance, and back. This is perfectly normal, if deeply unsettling.<br />i found it really hard to make my own choices again, so practice with something that makes you feel good. Maybe you want to try a new scent, new bath products, new candles. <br />Don't underestimate the power of writing. Perhaps keep a gratitude journal so that you have a focused place for acknowledging the good things in life during this trying time.<br />Be gentle with yourself. Give yourself permission to fall apart and get back up again. Do something kind for the little girl inside, who is likely the most traumatized part of you right now. <br />Forgive yourself. Over and over again. This is not a reflection upon you, your character, your worthiness. <br />Find a play partner, if you can, someone who can help you relearn how to feel those sensations apart from him. Make it about you-so maybe find a Service Top. It can help you release.<br />Get a massage. Your body needs touch to heal.<br />This will sound a bit nuts but sit in a quiet room and look into your own eyes in the mirror when you feel lonely and scared. There is something strangely soothing that happens and it works wonders.<br />Work on any hobby that brings you joy and loose yourself in it every day. <br />Many hugs.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09908578279350545990noreply@blogger.com